Step 1: Introduction. Make your face and name known to the girl. Short quick and genuine introduction. Don’t seem too interested, make the girl wonder about you a little.

Step 2: Be yourself. There’s no point in being someone you’re not.

Step 3: Be confident. If you’re not, then she’s going to be forced to keep every conversation going. Even if you’re nervous, seem confident. But, don’t be too confident, no girl likes a guy who comes off like they’re better than them. Especially, if you believe you are. That’s not cool. You need to make the girls guide the direction of each conversation, but you need to keep them going. If you’re funny, use it. Find out what she likes, and what she talks about and try to make it connect to you.

Step 4: Feel and look the best. Feeling happy and confident in what you are wearing makes you attractive. Be yourself – you’ll be most confident when you wear something you like. Don’t dress just to impress – dress to feel good about yourself and express who you are. Girls want someone put together to take home to their parents.

Step 5: Be independent. You don’t have to go along with the status quo. Say what you honestly think when you’re talking. I know I said to let her guide the conversations, but don’t just go along with everything she said. Fellas, these ladies are smart, if you just agree with everything they are going to know you’re a fake and not actually genuine.

Step 6: Actually take an interest. Regardless of what it is, talk and joke about stuff she says. If she talks about something that’s important to her, care about it. If she is laughing about something, keep her laughing. The second she stops laughing at your jokes or not wanting to talk about things in her life, you’ve lost her. So stay engaged and listen to what she has to say.

Step 7: Make a move. Girls want a guy who knows what he wants. If you know what you want and what you want is her, let it be known right away. Ask for her number or on a date when the time is right, don’t wait around and have her do it or she could become disinterested or think you are not interested in her.

Step 8: Get to know people and things around her. Getting to know her friends helps you understand more about them and also gets her friends like you. Oftentimes, guys only think about impressing her and forgetting about others. That’s not what you should do. Like I have said before, take an interest in her, which would include stuff that’s important in her life.

Step 9: Don’t be jealous or controlling. Acting jealous of her other friends or ex-boyfriend is not a good way to go. Accept that she can be friends with whoever she likes. Be cool, and don’t talk about the past, ever. Who cares.

Step 10: Read all signs. If you’re not getting any positive vibes from her, then let it go. Signs that she’s not interested could be if she often drifts off from the conversation or if she doesn’t listen to you. Don’t force something that is not there.

If you follow these ten steps and aren’t a creepy weirdo, you might find yourself sharing a candlelit plate of spaghetti with your favorite lady.