Weddings are stressful enough as it is, and with the merging of two families, it can be quite hectic. It’s recommended that you keep a level head and remember the following:

If a family member begins to act upset when you discuss your wedding, it may be because it makes them sad. It’s an emotional time for everybody during this wedding, and it should be no surprise that some of your family is just as surprised at how soon this moment has come.

If your parents don’t like your fiancee, you should at least hear them out. Chances are, if they have legitimate concerns about your future partner, they may truly see some problematic qualities that could affect your future together if not addressed quickly.

If two or more members from each side do not get along, sometimes it is best to let it be. Sometimes some small disputes can be amended, but if two people just don’t get along, it’s better to minimize contact between them.

Take charge! If your family is arguing over who gets to walk you down the aisle, consider walking solo. Keep a good sense of humor, diffuse the tension and remember to have fun! It’s your big day they’re all here to celebrate, after all.