To the editor:

In response to Sara Ziegler’s Feb. 14 column to Paul Shirley, it was a well-written column but will not accomplish the purpose the author intended.

It may even go as far as to backfire. So here are some tips for Sara on what not to do when trying to get a man.

Try to appear low key while in pursuit instead of coming across obsessive. Confessing your love to someone in front of the entire campus may be a little too strong, especially when you have never even met him. Next time, try and get to know your secret crush to see if he is really the man you want.

Not all people like public displays of affection; it might embarrass him. Instead of winning his heart, you may be turning him off.

By writing the column, you thought Paul would know who you were and then maybe you would have a chance with him, but in actuality, he may just know who to stay away from now.

Do not try and make all your dreams reality. Fate does not deal us the same hand it did Meg Ryan in the show “You’ve Got Mail.”

So you need to be honest with yourself and think about the long-term effects, and what would really come out of expressing your feelings in a newspaper to a guy you do not know. This is life, not the movies.

I admire the courage you had to write such a column, but maybe you should have weighed the pros and cons before you wrote it.

A different approach may help to catch the man of your dreams instead of scaring him away.

Stephanie Bouck

Sophomore

Sports management